A.K.I.M.A.L.Y.A.H.Always Knowing Important Men And Ladies You Are Here

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imikimi - Customize Your World
imikimi - Customize Your World

Have you ever stop to think?

While your child sit and listen to his parents not have a discussion but have an outright argument?

• That you are teaching that child how not to get your point across
• To have a disagreement you have to scream and holler
• There is cursing involved
• Belittlment involved

Have you even thought about the impact it would have on your child as they watched you two physically

fight with one another?

• Telling them the only way to get through this that you have to fight
• You fight and you still stay in the relationship so this is what relationships are all about
• It doesn't matter if he or she disrespects you, you still have to stay there in the relationship

Did you even think about the mental stress of your child?

• Suppose that child is a male and feel like the only way to help you is to be strong.
• It's their fault they couldn't help yo because they weren't strong enough.
• Or better yet they, it's their fault wrong has happened

Did anyone stop to think?

Just think about the harm you are causing your children women when

• You stay there and take the abuse
• When you take your anger out on the children
• When you leave them confused because they don't know what to do
• When some of them maybe even crying themselves to sleep at night
• Wishing there was something they can do
• Or maybe the ones that want to run away from home

Have you watched your child now that they are older.......

How they interact with the opposite sex, is it healthy? Or loving?

Or does it consist of the same exact type of relationship you have endured?

We are dealing with alot of depression in children today.  Today, the doctor's and professionals

even the teacher's want to know what is the root cause of the depression in the children.

I am not saying this is a sure fact to what im saying, but I always say if you take a troubled

child and go into the home you don't have to ask questions just sit and pay attention to what is

and what is not being said.  Believe you ad me you will get your answers.

Then they have society that don't allow them the rights to the parents that is doing all they

can to protect them.  But the courts put them right into the hands of the person that is mostly

likely hurting their mothers.  The systems messes them up when they do that.  Because even

though the mother has been trying to protect her children and forsaking herself, you just told

an confused child that maybe mommy is at fault.  And why not the father is only going to confirm

the thoughts in the child's mind why?  Because he wants the child to believe he is the one

that loves and wants him while the mother has to stay away for her own safty not knowing

truly what is going on within her child because she is trying to figure out what she has done

to make this man so mad or what she could have done differently to not make them mad.

Classic case of "I Blame Myself" Syndrome.  That is the classic case also for a victim.

 

EXAMPLE:  This is my testimony, my grandson was 10 months old while he watched

my then husband beat and raped me from 10:30 a.m. until I got him out of the house

at 4:00 p.m.  At ten months old you never think that he would remember anything.  Until

he turned 12 months old and started walking and the first thing that he would do was

start swinging as if he was my husband was punching me.  Then I noticed that if anyone

including his mother said something that even remotely like its against his grandmother he

would snap and he would start swinging and I mean hard.  He was doing what he seen

that man do to me.  Now he is about to be seven years old this month in fact next week

and he gets upset if he doesn't see me and if when he gets in my truck if there is someone

sitting in the front seat he will say that he has to sit in the front with his grandma because

he has to protect his grandmother.  When I started going to counseler a couple of years

ago, I would speak to my grandson - and she would tell me that he was too young to

remember what happened.  Well a couple of years ago he started having dreams about

grandma and he said, "Grandma how come wishes don't come true?"  I asked him,

"what  is your wish?"  He will reply, "I want to be strong like Superman so I can protect you

grandma, I have to make sure that nobody hurts you again.."  My heart just totally melted,

not because that is a sweet statement stated said to me; but because when he tells me

that he had a dream that he is having nightmares about what went on when he was young;

not only that he is thinking it's his fault that I got hurt.  So my heart melts becuase its hard

trying to convince him that its not his fault.  What a burden to put on a child.  We are getting

stuff out of my truck and i told him to go in the house because it' is very cold, this happened

last week and he said, "Grandma I have to watch you to make sure that you don't get hurt."

imikimi - Customize Your World MOTHER'S IT'S GOING TO COME FROM US WHAT OUR CHILDREN WILL BE LIKE PLEASE, UNDERSTAND IF YOU CONTINUE TO TELL YOUR CHILD....... 1. YOU ARE JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER AND a. HE'S BEEN IN JAIL ALL HIS LIFE b. HE'S A DEAD BEAT DAD c. HE'S A BUM d. ANYTHING BAD YOU JUST TOLD YOUR CHILD THEY WILL BE THE SAME THING THAT YOU DON'T LIKE IN THEIR FATHER. IT'S VERY IMPORTANT THAT WE START INSTILLING SOME POSITIVE WORDS IN OUR CHILDREN. FAMILY STRUCTURE IS VERY IMPORTANT - WE ARE NOT GOING TO RAISE OUR CHILDREN THE SAME NO ONE IS EXPECTING THAT BUT ITS ABOUT THE POSITIVE, POSITIVE MESSAGE YOU PUT INSIDE EACH CHILD - WE HAVE TO START ENCOURAGING OUR CHILDREN
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imikimi - Customize Your World Some children are faced with parents that have problems within themselves. They have to be instilled with positive anyway. And we have to help us in order to help them. One thing I used to watch and listen to my sister say to her only son: "Don't smoke weed or drink - go in your room." And right there in the livingroom smoke week and drink. What do you think that child did once he was old enough? Some tradegy's happen because of our life style, we still have to encourage the best way we can. I ASK THAT WE PRAY FOR MY NEPHEW WHO IS STILL LEARNING HOW TO WALK COMPLETELY FROM A GUN SHOT WOUND.....
Zingerbug on imikimi - Customize Your World I had to encourage my best friend here above that a break up is never easy but we can't draw our children into the break up........ They are already confused because they are not a full family don't add to their confusion by arguing with their mother and visa versa. Beautiful family here
imikimi - Customize Your World This is my best friend, family structure is very important in the lives our our teenagers and we must encourage even as adult we may still need encouragement. So yes I encourage my friends as much as I encourage myself
imikimi - Customize Your World This is my youngest of my 3 daughters, I may not like rap music but I encourage my daughter to be who she want to be and yes I love to hear my daughter perform and watch her enjoy just what she does. Parents we must encourage not discourage our children to be who they want to be.
imikimi - Customize Your World Even if they have children before they are ready; parents they are still your grand children we have to help our children help themselves. Throwing them out the house to the world is not the best answer yet it is the worst thing you can do. You not only throw the mother out of course she is taking your grandchild out in that cruel world. Even as a young mother although i have to be honest, it did get tough at times; we still have to encourage.